Monday, November 30, 2015

7 Pieces Of Timeless Wisdom To Help You Get Through Tough Times

The holidays can be the most wonderful time of the year for some, but they can also bring the feeling of loneliness, financial struggles, or memories of a lost loved one.  Here is a great article c/o, offering wisdom to help you get through tough times...


The wisest, most loving, and well rounded people you have ever met are likely those who have known misery, known defeat, known the heartbreak of losing something or someone they loved, and have found their way out of the depths of their own despair. These people have experienced many ups and downs, and have gained an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, understanding and a deep loving wisdom. People like this aren’t born; they develop slowly over the course of time.

In all honesty, when hard times hit, and the challenges you face are great, you can either let your situation define you, let it destroy you or let it strengthen you. The choice is yours to make.
It is my hope that the points made in this article will remind you of a few powerful, yet easily forgotten truths that will help you choose wisely and grow stronger even through the hardest of times…

1. Fear is an illusion, your fears literally do not exist.

During hard times it can be difficult to follow your heart and take the next step, but it’s essential that you do not let this stop you from progressing . The emotions generated by the illusion of  ’fear’ can feel overwhelming but you need to realize fear goes only as deep as your mind allows. You control your mind, so understand this and take control!
Don’t let your fear becomes a wordless, obscure darkness that you avoid, and perhaps even manage to briefly forget. Verbalize your emotions, do not hide from your feelings and face your fears head on.
You CAN beat fear if you face it. Be courageous! And remember that courage doesn’t mean you don’t get afraid; courage means you don’t let fear stop you from moving forward with your life.

2. Pain is just another part of life,  and it helps you to grow. 

So many of us are afraid of ourselves, of our own truth, and our feelings most of all. We talk about how great the concepts of life and love are, but then we hide from both every day. We hide from our truest feelings. Because the truth is life and love hurt sometimes, and the feelings this brings disturbs us.

We are taught at an early age that all pain is evil and harmful. Yet, how can we ever expect to deal with real life and true love if we’re afraid to feel what we really feel? We need to feel pain, just as we need to feel alive and loved. Pain is meant to wake us up. Yet we try to hide our pain. Realize this. Pain is something to carry willingly, just like good sense. Because you can only learn how strong you are when being strong is the only choice you have.

It’s all in how you carry the things that don’t go your way. That’s what matters in the end. Pain is a feeling. Your feelings are a part of you – your own reality. If you feel ashamed of them, and hide them, you’re letting the lies of insecurity destroy your reality. You should stand up for your right to feel pain – to endure it – to own your scars – to deal with the realities of life and love, as you grow into the strongest, wisest, truest version of yourself.

3. Mindset is half the battle.

It’s okay to sometimes feel down, especially during tough times. We can’t always expect life to be wonderful all the time . However, when you recognize that life is full of highs and lows, you are able to let go and be at peace with the reality of these ups and downs. It becomes clear that life’s ups bad times in order for us to truly appreciate the good times.

Basically, life isn’t perfect, but it sure is great. Your goal should never be to create a perfect life, but to live an imperfect life in an amazing away. Get up every morning and take a good look around you.
Take nothing for granted. Everything is extraordinary. Every day is a gift. To be spiritual in any way is to be in awe at everything .
Do not let the pain of a difficult situation make you hopeless. Do not let negativity seep into your life.. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Remember, all you have to do it is change your thoughts and you change your reality.

And mindset is especially powerful when it comes to accepting that…

4. You are growing through experience.

 Over time you will find that life isn’t necessarily any easier or harder than you thought it was going to be; it’s just that the easy and the hard aren’t exactly the way you had anticipated, and don’t always occur when you expect them to. This isn’t a bad thing; it makes life interesting. With a positive attitude you will always be pleasantly surprised.

When you stop expecting things to be a certain way, you can appreciate them for what they are. Ultimately you will realize that life’s greatest gifts are rarely wrapped the way you expected.
Experience is what you get when your plans don’t go as planned, and experience is the most valuable commodity you own – it builds your strength.

You have the power to turn your wounds and worries into wisdom; you just have to do something about them. You have to accept what has happened and use what you’ve learned to step forward. Everything you’ve experienced has given you the upper hand for dealing with everything you have yet to experience. Realize this and set yourself free.

5. The present is all you really have to deal with.

Life is not lived in some distant, imagined land of someday where everything is perfect. It is lived here and now, with the reality of the way things are. Yes, by all means you can work toward an idealized tomorrow. Yet to do so, you must successfully deal with the world as it is today.
Sometimes we avoid experiencing exactly where we are because we have developed a belief, based on past experiences, that it is not where we should be or want to be. But the truth is, where you are now is exactly where you need to be to get to where you want to go tomorrow. So appreciate where you are.

Your friends and family are too beautiful to ignore. Take a moment to remember how fortunate you are to be breathing. Take a look around, with your eyes earnestly open to the possibilities before you. Much of what you fear does not exist. Much of what you love is closer than you realize. You are just one brief thought away from understanding the blessing that is your life.

Happiness is a mindset that can only be designed into the present. It’s not a point in the future or a moment from the past; yet sadly, this misconception hurts the masses. So many young people seem to think all their happiness awaits them in the years ahead, while so many older people believe their best moments are behind them. Don’t be either of them. Don’t let the past and the future steal your present.

6. Other people cannot validate you.

When we’re struggling to achieve something important, sometimes we look to others to validate our progress. But the truth is, they can’t…

You are not in this world to live up to the expectations of others, nor should you feel that others are here to live up to yours. Create your own path. What success means to each of us is totally different. Success is ultimately about spending your life happily in your own way.
You don’t have to be famous to be significant or be a celebrity to be successful. You don’t need to be validated by anyone else. You are already valuable. You just need to believe in yourself.
You can be quietly humble and still be amazingly effective. Just because people don’t fall at your feet and worship you, doesn’t mean you are a failure. Quiet success is just as sweet as loud, flamboyant success, and usually far more real. Success is how you define it, not what everyone else says it must be for you.

7. You are not alone.

In the midst of hard times, it’s easy to look around and see a bunch of people who seem to be doing just fine. But they’re not. We’re all struggling in our own way. And if we could just be brave enough to open up about it, and talk to each other, we’d realize that we are not alone in feeling lost and alone.

So many of us are fighting the same exact battle alongside you. We are all in this together. So no matter how embarrassed or pathetic you feel about your own situation, know that there are others out there experiencing the same emotions. When you hear yourself say,
“I am all alone,” it’s just your worried mind trying to sell you a lie. There’s always someone who can relate to you. Perhaps you can’t immediately talk to them, but they are out there.
If you’re feeling desperate right now, hear me: I often feel and think and struggle much like you do. I care about many of the things you care about, just in my own way. And although some people do not understand us, we understand each other. YOU are not alone!


Monday, November 23, 2015

Watch How Meditation Is Transforming Elementary Kids

Mindful Meditation is Transforming Elementary Kids: Parents, This is a Must Watch

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published 11/19/15

Finally! Mindful meditation is being practiced by students and teachers during school. Had I learned what these lucky kids are learning now when I was a kid, the amount of times I turned into a psychopath when my little brother got under my skin, might have been few and far between.

The University of Wisconsin-Madison is teaching kids how to do mindful meditation. At first, the kids thought it was strange, but it didn’t take long for them to look forward to their meditation session after lunch and recess (the time when they seem to be the most unfocused).

The results have been incredible. The kids have become more available to learn and teachers have seen a huge transformation, in fact, students are now practicing mindfulness without being asked to.

“If I’m ever like bad emotions or mad, I just think about breathing in deep and think about mindfulness. I think its very helpful to me.”-5th grader at Glendale Elementary School

“I can feel myself calming down and ya know, let go of the stress, ya know, let go of what was on my mind outside, and pay attention to what they (teachers) are talking about.”-5th grader at Glendale Elementary School.

Kids have astounding capabilities because their minds are still open, and its important that adults give them the opportunity to let their minds flourish. Mindfulness is the way!
This video might make you smile really big:


Monday, November 16, 2015

Meditation: It's Not What You Think

Meditation: It's Not What You Think
Excerpted from Coming to Our Senses: Healing Ourselves and the World Through Mindfulness
By Jon Kabat-Zinn, Ph.D.
It might be good to clarify a few common misunderstandings about meditation right off the bat.  First, meditation is best thought of as a way of being, rather than a technique or a collection of techniques.
I'll say it again.
Mediation is a way of being, not a technique. 
This doesn't mean that there aren't methods and techniques associated with meditation practice.
There are.  In fact, there are hundreds of them, and we will be making good use of some of them.  But without understanding that all techniques are orienting vehicles pointing at ways of being, ways of being in relationship to the present moment and to one's own mind and one's own experience, we can easily get lost in techniques and in our misguided but entirely understandable attempts to use them to get somewhere else and experience some special result or state that we think is the goal of it all...
Second, meditation is not relaxation spelled differently.  Perhaps I should say that again as well: Meditation is not relaxation spelled differently.  That doesn't mean that meditation is not frequently accompanied by profound states of relaxation and by deep feelings of wellbeing.  Of course it is, or can be, sometimes.  But mindfulness meditation is the embrace of any and all mind states in awareness, without preferring one to another.  From the point of view of mindfulness practice, pain or anguish, or for that matter boredom or impatience or frustration or anxiety or tension in the body are all equally valid objects of our attention if we find them arising in the present moment, each a rich opportunity for insight and learning, and potentially, for liberation, rather than signs that or meditation practice is not "succeeding" because we are not feeling relaxed or experience bliss in some moment.
We might say that meditation is really a way of being appropriate to the circumstances one finds oneself in, in any and every moment.  If we are caught up in the preoccupations of our own mind, in that moment we cannot be present in an appropriate way or perhaps at all.  We will bring an agenda of some kind to whatever we say or do or think, even if we don't know it...
For meditation, and especially mindfulness meditation, is not the throwing of a switch and catapulting yourself anywhere, not is it entertaining certain thoughts and getting rid of others.  Nor is it making your mind blank or willing yourself to be peaceful or relaxed.  It is really an inward gesture that inclines the heart and mind (seen as one seamless whole) toward a full-spectrum awareness of the present moment just as it is, accepting whatever is happening simply because it is already happening...
Meditation is not about trying to get anywhere else.  It is about allowing yourself to be exactly where you are and as you are, and for the world to be exactly as it is in this moment as well.  This is not so easy, since there is always something that we can rightly find fault with if we stay inside our thinking.  And so there tends to be great resistance on the part of the mind and body to settle into things just as they are, even for a moment.  That resistance to what is may be even more compounded if we are meditating because we hope that by doing so, we can effect change, make things different, improve our own lives, and contribute to improving the lot of the world...
So, from the point of view of awareness, any state of mind is a meditative state.  Anger or sadness is just as interesting and useful and valid to look into as enthusiasm or delight, and far more valuable than a blank mind, a mind that is insensate, out of touch.  Anger, fear, terror, sadness, resentment, impatience, enthusiasm, delight, confusion, disgust, contempt, envy, rage, lust, even dullness, doubt, and torpor, in fact all mind states and body states are occasions to know ourselves better if we can stop, look, and listing, in other words, if we can come to our senses and be intimate with what present itself in awareness in any and every moment.  The astonishing thing, so counterintuitive, is that nothing else needs to happen.  We can give up trying to make something special occur.  In letting go of wanting something special to occur, maybe we can realize that something very special is already occurring, and is always occurring, namely life emerging in each moment as awareness itself.

Monday, November 9, 2015

When Schools Teach Meditation, Something Amazing Happens

Enjoy this article c/o

I am sure a lot of you have experienced the fantastic practice of meditation.  Boasting a wide variety of benefits, meditation is proven to have a massive impact on your mental and emotional well-being. Burdened with stress, and facing something has been challenging you, meditation is an excellent way to relax and gain insight in your daily life. Could you imagine if the practice of meditation was taught to you as a child? The impact on your life would have been drastic.
There are countless benefits to teaching children meditation. A few years ago, the school district of San Francisco was searching for a way to help troubled teens in their schools. After much thought and deliberation, they went forward with a program called "quiet time". The program gave students the opportunity to practice transcendental meditation, which involves the use of a sound or mantra within the technique, for 15 minutes a day. The school board had hopes that this would assist students in letting go of stress and confusion in their lives. The school saw  a 79% decrease in suspensions, a 98.3% increase in attendance, and an increase to student's GPA by 4, only four years after the start of "Quiet Time", according to Collective Evolution.
If we started teaching meditation to our younger generations, would it prevent fighting and bullying, would drop-outs dwindle in numbers? Would it maybe give them a head-start to provide them with the necessary life tools for a more peaceful, successful life?
The wonderful organization called Tonic For The Soul recently started a campaign to fundraise in support of instilling meditation time during school hours for kids and teenagers. Their goal is to "empower the youth with the tools that bring calm, focus and happiness" to give them the best start to life.
The money that is raised will help with the production of a guided meditation series, a website, and a table at a major Health and Wellness Expo.
The children of today will be the leaders of the future- imagine how this one simple practice could shape our tomorrows for the better.

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Monday, November 2, 2015

4 Steps To A Conscious Relationship


We are approaching a period of time when relationships are ready to go through a major redesign. The current paradigm isn't working. People are unsatisfied in love. They don't know how to make relationships work.

This is not a bad thing. Because when systems break down, that's when they change. This break down is guiding us to move toward conscious love.

This is a romantic relationship in which both partners feel committed to a sense of purpose, and that purpose is growth. Individual growth. Collective growth as a couple. Growth that makes the world a greater place.


This is the path to a Conscious Relationship...

1. The conscious couple is not attached to the outcome of the relationship: growth comes first.
This doesn't mean we don't care what happens or we can't fantasize about how the relationship will turn out. It means that we are more committed to the experience of growth than we are at making the relationship "work". The reality is, we are here to grow: physical, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. When growth stops, we automatically feel like something has gone wrong. Because it has. Without growth we are not fulfilling our soul's purpose.

Unfortunately, most relationships tend to stifle growth more than enhance it. We want our partners to act a certain way, we repress ourselves to please others, and soon enough, we feel small, oppressed and puzzled about what we've become. This inevitably makes the relationship feel like a cage we want to break out of. But the truth is we've caged ourselves. The conscious couple values growth above anything else because they know this is the secret to keeping the relationship alive.
2. Each person in the relationship is committed to owning their shit.

Conscious couples know they all have wounds from the past, and they understand that these wounds will be triggered, especially in a relationship. They expect they will feel abandoned, trapped, rejected, and any other shitty feelings that arise when we get close with another person.

Most people still believe that relationships should feel only good, and when bad feelings surface, something has gone terribly wrong. They fail to recognize that these issues are not caused by our partners, they are caused by our beliefs. The conscious couple is willing to look at their past and present issues because they know that by facing these beliefs systems, they can evolve into a new relationship reality. Dysfunctional patterns will dissolve, but only when we take responsibility for them first.


3. All feelings are welcome, and no internal process is condemned.

In a conscious relationship, there's room for feeling anything. Not only that, there's room to express those feelings and fantasies to your partner. This is an edgy territory that's not easy to accomplish, but it's also one of the most healing things we can experience in a partnership.

It's rare to be completely honest about who we are and stretch yourself to let your partner do the same. You may not like what you hear; in fact, it may trigger the hell out of you. But if you're willing to be triggered, it means your partner can be authentic. 

We are used to molding and changing ourselves to please people we love because we don't want them to stop loving us. This stifles the love out of our connections. The only option is radical honesty, revealing parts of ourselves that are hard to share and letting our partners do the same. This leads to feeling known, seen and truly understood. This will automatically enhance Love.


4. The relationship is a place to practice love.

Love, ultimately is a practice. A practice of acceptance, being present, forgiveness, and stretching your heart into vulnerable territory. Love is a journey and an exploration. It's showing up for all varied nuances of our relationship and asking our selves: what would Love do here?

The conscious couple is fiercely committed to being the embodiment of love. And through their devotion and practice, love shows up in their lives and relationship.